Past in Love

                Of all the virtues of a human, the most important is forgiveness. Forgiveness is always related to past. Nothing can be done with the things happened in the past. Things that might have hurt you in a relationship might be many. Its how you deal with it decides the term and depth of a relation. No one likes our past to cast a dark shadow in our life. People find resort on many things which could either worsen your life or could open up gates of success.

               The mistakes you commit is basically an opportunity for you to get better in life. No matter what you do in life, the past has the capability to stop you from doing what you are supposed to in the present or for the future. You might have become the most successful person in life, but the past would drive you crazy and might interrupt your progress in life. If you decide to brood on your past, it will just drain the life out of you and would make you feel miserable.

                 The two medicines that can heal your past are Time and Love. Though time might seem to be a very effective medicine, it can result in a sudden turn back to the past. Whereas, Love is highly effective as with love, you get strength, support and care to help you progress in life. I have had a past which I am not that proud of. Back in the days, I used to regret for my acts; brood over them and then I met her. She not only made me love my present and gave me hopes for a better tomorrow, but made me love my past for it had only helped me to be the one I am today.

              Love demands forgiveness. No matter what you have to forgive, you must be willing to forgive all that had happened in the past. One truth that which we all know is cheating is one thing which no one can ever forget as it bruises not just the relation, but also does bruise his trust and his humanity. Your girlfriend/boyfriend might have had previous relations before she/he met you. They might have taken her/him to be their true love and might have gone beyond limits, they might have got abused in their past. What matters now is, do they love you forgetting all what happened in their past? Have they got over those moments that once might have haunted them day and night? Will they be able to love you no matter what happens to them by doing so? Well, in that case, you should forgive them and make them special as they have had their bad times like any human. If they are disturbed and needs their past to be cleared with your help, do help them. But in doing so, ensure that your present current relation is not put on stake.

                 Love does make you see things clearer. If you can see the future with your loved one, then you need to mend all the broken walls. Make your walls stronger so that you dont get hurt by any external factors. Win the trust and love of your dear one and then start enjoying your life. If you have had many boyfriends or girlfriends, you might have now figured out what a boy or a girl really feels like in different situations. If you know them by now, never generalize or categorize your lover at any cost, for that would hurt them inside and would make you sound just like another guy or girl from their past. What you need to be concentrating on is to modify yourself for your love. Your ex boyfriends or girlfriends might have pointed out your flaws which you could work on to make things better for your true love. The mistakes of your past could be undone and be made perfect for your love. 

                   Love demands sacrifice. Forgiveness is the only secret that could mend and strengthen your bond of love. Love is definitely a feeling, but it can be felt properly when your heart is made light without any burdens or guilt. Let your heart express yourself without being bothered much about the past. There is nothing that past can do to your present and future if its dealt together with your loved one. I have personally discussed my past relations with my love and so has she. We were not worried about anything that might pop up in the future, for our conscience was clear. I have heard people say that when they are in the company of their true love, they often get reminded of their ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend which I would say is a great mistake. The boy or the girl who now loves you and trusts you is now in your arms with the thought that you belong to him or her. If you are reminded of your ex, stop yourself and then look into her or his eyes and see yourself in there. Its your love that they have managed to trust and appreciate. Do everything you can to keep your love happy and high.

Conclusion:- What you are in the present is totally because of your past. Make peace with your past. Forgive your partner for what had happened in their past if in the present they just have you placed in their heart. Everyone has a past. Do not let them cast dark shadows in your present and future. In a relation, forgiveness of what happened in the past is more important cos there is nothing you can do to fix the past. The only thing you have control on is on the present and certain things in the future. Win the trust and love of your partner, cos thats the only thing that would make you feel good on long run.

Words in LOVE

                  I can talk on and on about the immaculate love for it has been there in this world from its beginning. No matter what you do to make the love sound dirty, it would still be cleaner for everything one does in a war and love is fair. If I was asked, what is love to me? I would still be thinking hard to answer. Have I really felt and experienced love? Will my definitions for love be right? Well, if you thought those to be the questions that would be in my mind before I answered it, then you got me wrong. Before you answer such a question, it would be wise to understand the person asking you the question. If the question is asked by an interviewer, you could be creative to impress your audience; if asked by your Mother, whom you loved from the moment you were born, you might tend to be casual, but believe me, your Mom would love to hear the right words which would make her feel the best because by the time she is asking you this question, she would be weak and would definitely be looking out for few comforting words.  

                   Now if you are to answer to a kid, you might have to keep in mind his age, the pros and cons of such a conversation. One thing that we can be sure is, the kid would one day figure out what love is, its up to us to decide if you should be the eye opener or not. The next is the person who actually completes the vicious circle of love. A person for whom the word Love was coined; your lover, who could be your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife. When dealing with this class, you will require all the above combinations. There might be people who might say, just be yourself in love. Just tell her or him the words that comes in your mind. But I tell you, my boy or girl... Like you, the person in love has a heart and feelings which could be easily hurt. Unlike girls, guys dont forget hurtful words. They tend to have it buried deep inside which might erupt one day or the other. Being nice to your loved one not only keeps him or her happy, but adds few extra years to your life. Its like planning your happy life with words used wisely.

                    Every one in this world is born with flaws and merits. The combination of both would vary from person to person. When you talk about love, try to include both the pros and cons of a person in your definition thus making the other one know of two things; you appreciate both the flaws and merits of the person and second is that you are making him or her feel that he or she is not totally perfect and that you are special to him or her. Letting your loved one know about their weaknesses is not a mistake, but using the right words to convey your point is very important. Dont let yourself degraded nor try to be dominating in a relation. If you ever find your partner to be too dominating, do ensure that he or she understands your points no matter what. When it comes to girls, there are times when you need to listen to your man for your own safety and men who have intelligent girls to push you to success, do heed to her words. You dont loose anything in doing so, instead you gain his or her respect, trust and love.

Conclusion:- Do talk to your lover with utter care and patience. You won't loose anything by saying few good words, instead you would gain the respect, trust and love of your loved one. Your loved one is all that you have to hold on till the end. Do everything to keep him or her happy cos in the end, he or she is what you will have to hold on.